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October 19, 2021
Lance Wigton is back with counselor Beth Keop for part three of our series on Emotional Intelligence.
In this episode Beth leads out with the 10 primary emotions that we experience, and the balance we need to find between Emotion and Reason. Naming/Identifying your emotions is where we start the process of learning to manage them.
10 Primary Emotions:
- Anger
- Fear
- Sadness
- Disgust
- Envy
- Jealousy
- Shame
- Guilt
- Love
- Happiness
Beth whiteboards the process to determine our root emotions using Lance’s experience with his Core Value exercise that he did after Episode 1. (If you have not watched Episode 1 yet you can watch it here) https://realliferesources.org/podcast/whats-it-like-to-be-in-relationship-with-me-ep-1/
Action/Urge Process:
- Prompting Event – Emotion – Urge/Action
Beth uses the example of her own Anger/Guilt/Shame cycle to help us learn to recognize the cycles that we develop over time that can become a coping skill in our lives.
She explains how tracking back to your primary emotion in a prompting event can help you determine what value of yours is not being met. Once we discover this, we can find different ways to fill our needs so that we no longer require the coping skills we have developed.
Beth also shares how looking back at the tendencies and reactions that seem to be a reflex in your life can lead you to things that are buried in your life that you need to look at and deal with.
Having this information can help us rein in some of our overblown emotional responses to the situations around us, which could be a pivotal tool to help us increase self-awareness and raise our Emotional Intelligence level towards both ourselves and those around us.
For more resources visit our website: Realliferesources.org
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October 14, 2021
Lance Wigton and Beth Keop are back – and in this episode, they break down what it looks like when our Core Values are challenged. Lance shares his experience with doing the homework Beth had assigned during Ep. 1 – asking the people around him what they believed his values were. He did not get the response he expected.
Beth debriefs the situation with Lance and helps him investigate his own actions and impulses to determine the root emotion he was experiencing, for the purpose of helping him discover his Core Values.
Some of the topics addressed in this episode are:
- What does it mean if I feel bad?
- What does it look like to be curious about my emotions?
- How do I know the difference between a thought and an emotion?
- Why is it important to identify my emotions?
Beth walks us through a visual and shows us how to look at a prompting event in our life and determine the action we wanted to take in response to it, which will lead us to the primary emotion we were experiencing. This process will help us discover the core value that is being blocked or attacked.
Having this information can help us rein in some of our overblown emotional responses to the situations around us, which could be a pivotal tool to help us increase self-awareness and raise our Emotional Intelligence level towards both ourselves and those around us.
For more resources visit our website: Realliferesources.org
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September 2, 2021
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Lance Wigton, Communications Director at Real Life Ministries is back again with Beth Keop, Counselor, in episode 1 of a new series we are calling: "What is it like to be in relationship with me?" In this series Lance and Beth will be examining many of the facets and nuances of Emotional Intelligence. They will help you take a look at yourself and discover what it is like for others to be in relationship with you.
Join us to learn how to identify and understand the emotions of yourself and others on an individual, personal and situational level. Learn to engage in new ways that build emotional intelligence skills and enhance your personal and professional relationships.
In this episode they discuss how to determine what we value by the strength of our emotional reactions, and how to apply the same techniques to those we interact with.
You will walk away from this episode with some steps you can implement into you life now to move you towards better self-awareness about the things you value.
- What do I compare myself too?
- Where do I spend my time and money?
- What do I react to?
- Who can I ask for feedback?
Click below to download the list of Core Values that Beth mentions:
List of Core Values
Click below to watch Lance and Beth's previous episode:
What is Emotional Intelligence and Why do I Need It?
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Leading with Emotional Intelligence
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June 2, 2021
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This week on the Real for Life podcast Lance Wigton is joined by long time Real Life member Beth Keop, who is a Clinical Supervisor for a Community Mental Health Provider in North Idaho.
Beth has led Emotional Intelligence workshops for our Real Life Staff and for members in our Real Life Classes venue, and today she is talking through some of the information from her training.
Leadership is influencing people to follow you. As disciples of Jesus, we are called to lead people. In order for people to follow us, we need to have an emotional understanding of ourselves and of others.
As disciples and ambassadors for Jesus, the ability to engage with others and become aware of their emotional state is an important component of our knowledge and ability to reach them. It will help us not only to determine what questions to ask others to help us identify their needs, it can also bring about an awareness of own emotional reflexes and filters so that we can ensure they don't get in the way.
Some of things Lance and Beth discuss include:
- What is Emotional Intelligence?
- Why is your EI more important in leadership than your IQ?
- How do emotions motivate behavior?
- Why Self Awareness is the cornerstone of EI.
- Why trust and vulnerability are key.
- How do guilt and shame contribute to Self-Awareness?
We hope you find this session enlightening and helpful, and we encourage you to subscribe to this podcast so that you don't miss new episodes!
Questions or suggestions for podcast topics? Email us! Realforlife@reallifeministries.com
You can download the transcript of this podcast by clicking below:
What is Emotional Intelligence?
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Leading with Emotional Intelligence - with Beth Keop
May 27, 2021
In this episode of the Real For Life podcast, Lance Wigton speaks with Real Life's International Discipleship Team members Dave Campbell and Paul Byrns. They discuss the ins and outs of engaging in conversation and relationship with people from a culture that is different from your own.
This is an important ability when we are trying to share Christ with others through relationship. Some of the things they address are:
- How do we break down barriers and allow trust and transparency to take place?
- How do we become familiar with cultural differences that may exist?
- How do we move past awkward moments when they come up?
- Where do we encounter different cultures without leaving the country?
- How do we look at those around us every day with the same grace we have towards other cultures?
- What cultural differences might we run into in our small groups?
Be sure to watch all the way to the end as Lance tries to stump these world travelers with a game of Name That Place!
April 14, 2021
This week Lance interviews power couple Chris and Sara Short about what it looks like to have a marriage that is built according to God's design.
Some of the things they discuss include:
- What does God's design for marriage look like?
- What does a quarantine do to a relationship?
- What happens when you drop a Mentos candy into a bottle of Coke?
- What comes out when life shakes you up?
- How can couples fight the right fights?
Be sure to watch all the way to the end to see Chris and Sara play the game to see which one knows the most about the other!
Download your free copy of the Short's ebook on marriage: "Built To Last"
Built To Last eBook
April 6, 2021
Real Life Ministries is one church with 3, soon to be 4, locations. In this episode of the podcast, Senior Pastor Jim Putman and Communications Director Lance Wigton talk about the philosophy that led them away from a mega-church model towards a multi-campus site. They also announce the site of their next campus - due to launch in September of 2021!
April 1, 2021
On this podcast Jim Putman, Senior Pastor at Real Life Ministries and Lance Wigton, Communication Director at Real Life Ministries, answer an often asked question - "Why would a church do an egg hunt for Easter?"
They talk about the fact that even though we know Bunnies and eggs have nothing to do with celebrating the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ, we are always looking for ways to go outside of our walls and reach the world for Jesus one person at a time.
They explain the philosophy behind what we call a 'Bridge' event - and why it can cause people to take a step into a relational environment and bring them a step closer to a relationship with God and His Church.
Questions? Contact us at realforlife@reallifeministries.com
March 17, 2021
Jim Putman and Lance Wigton are back to answer some more frequently asked questions about Real Life Ministries. This week they are discussing why Real Life doesn't have a separate Youth Service during our Sunday morning church service.
March 11, 2021
In this episode of the Real for Life Podcast, Lance Wigton has a conversation with Real Life Lead Youth Pastor Heath Fagen and Lead Team Member Riley Couch. They give a close up look at the life of a Middle Schooler - their biggest strengths, the things they value, and how an older generation can connect with them. They also play a game of Stump the Boomer, where Lance tries to guess the meaning of some common terms from the Middle School demographic!
