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What’s It Like To Be In Relationship With Me? Ep. 4

What’s It Like To Be In Relationship With Me? Ep. 4

March 29, 2022

In this last podcast of this series, Lance once agains sits down with Beth Koep to talk about emotional intelligence and the importance it plays in relationships.

They will be talking about what it looks like when our bodies are responding to and reflecting our emotions. They also cover the following topics:

  • What happens when we try to block feelings?
  • How do our perceptions affect our emotions, thoughts and actions?
  • How do we slow down our reactions so that we can respond to others well?
  • How do we balance the reason/emotion teeter totter? 
  • What happens when we try to stop our child from experiencing difficult emotions?

We hope you have enjoyed this series on Emotional Intelligence - to check out all of Real Life's current class schedule click the link below:

https://www.reallifeministries.com/classes

To watch episodes 1-3 of this series click the link below:

What's It Like To Be In Relationship With Me?

 

If you are interested in contacting Beth Koep Counseling you can call or text this number to schedule an appointment: 208-755-6540

 

 


What‘s It Like To Be In Relationship With Me? Ep. 3

What‘s It Like To Be In Relationship With Me? Ep. 3

October 19, 2021

Lance Wigton is back with counselor Beth Keop for part three of our series on Emotional Intelligence.

In this episode Beth leads out with the 10 primary emotions that we experience, and the balance we need to find between Emotion and Reason. Naming/Identifying your emotions is where we start the process of learning to manage them.

10 Primary Emotions:

  • Anger
  • Fear
  • Sadness
  • Disgust
  • Envy
  • Jealousy
  • Shame
  • Guilt
  • Love
  • Happiness

Beth whiteboards the process to determine our root emotions using Lance’s experience with his Core Value exercise that he did after Episode 1. (If you have not watched Episode 1 yet you can watch it here) https://realliferesources.org/podcast/whats-it-like-to-be-in-relationship-with-me-ep-1/

 

Action/Urge Process:

  • Prompting Event – Emotion – Urge/Action

Beth uses the example of her own Anger/Guilt/Shame cycle to help us learn to recognize the cycles that we develop over time that can become a coping skill in our lives.

She explains how tracking back to your primary emotion in a prompting event can help you determine what value of yours is not being met. Once we discover this, we can find different ways to fill our needs so that we no longer require the coping skills we have developed.

Beth also shares how looking back at the tendencies and reactions that seem to be a reflex in your life can lead you to things that are buried in your life that you need to look at and deal with.

Having this information can help us rein in some of our overblown emotional responses to the situations around us, which could be a pivotal tool to help us increase self-awareness and raise our Emotional Intelligence level towards both ourselves and those around us.

 

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What Is It Like To Be In Relationship With Me? Ep. 2

What Is It Like To Be In Relationship With Me? Ep. 2

October 14, 2021

Lance Wigton and Beth Keop are back – and in this episode, they break down what it looks like when our Core Values are challenged. Lance shares his experience with doing the homework Beth had assigned during Ep. 1 – asking the people around him what they believed his values were. He did not get the response he expected.

 

Beth debriefs the situation with Lance and helps him investigate his own actions and impulses to determine the root emotion he was experiencing, for the purpose of helping him discover his Core Values.

 

Some of the topics addressed in this episode are:

 

  • What does it mean if I feel bad?

 

  • What does it look like to be curious about my emotions?

 

  • How do I know the difference between a thought and an emotion?

 

  • Why is it important to identify my emotions?

 

Beth walks us through a visual and shows us how to look at a prompting event in our life and determine the action we wanted to take in response to it, which will lead us to the primary emotion we were experiencing. This process will help us discover the core value that is being blocked or attacked.

 

Having this information can help us rein in some of our overblown emotional responses to the situations around us, which could be a pivotal tool to help us increase self-awareness and raise our Emotional Intelligence level towards both ourselves and those around us.

 

You can download the transcript of this podcast HERE

For more resources visit our website: Realliferesources.org

 

 


What Is It Like To Be In Relationship With Me? Ep.1

What Is It Like To Be In Relationship With Me? Ep.1

September 2, 2021

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Lance Wigton, Communications Director at Real Life Ministries is back again with Beth Keop, Counselor, in episode 1 of a new series we are calling: "What is it like to be in relationship with me?" In this series Lance and Beth will be examining many of the facets and nuances of Emotional Intelligence. They will help you take a look at yourself and discover what it is like for others to be in relationship with you.   

Join us to learn how to identify and understand the emotions of yourself and others on an individual, personal and situational level. Learn to engage in new ways that build emotional intelligence skills and enhance your personal and professional relationships.

In this episode they discuss how to determine what we value by the strength of our emotional reactions, and how to apply the same techniques to those we interact with. 

You will walk away from this episode with some steps you can implement into you life now to move you towards better self-awareness about the things you value.

  • What do I compare myself too?
  • Where do I spend my time and money?
  • What do I react to? 
  • Who can I ask for feedback? 

Click below to download the list of Core Values that Beth mentions:

List of Core Values

Click below to watch Lance and Beth's previous episode:

What is Emotional Intelligence and Why do I Need It?

Click below to register for Beth's Emotional Intelligence Class at Real Life Ministries, Post Falls Campus.

Leading with Emotional Intelligence 

 

 


What Is Emotional Intelligence And Why Do I Need It?

What Is Emotional Intelligence And Why Do I Need It?

June 2, 2021

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This week on the Real for Life podcast Lance Wigton is joined by long time Real Life member Beth Keop, who is a Clinical Supervisor for a Community Mental Health Provider in North Idaho. 

Beth has led Emotional Intelligence workshops for our Real Life Staff and for members in our Real Life Classes venue, and today she is talking through some of the information from her training.

Leadership is influencing people to follow you. As disciples of Jesus, we are called to lead people. In order for people to follow us, we need to have an emotional understanding of ourselves and of others.

As disciples and ambassadors for Jesus, the ability to engage with others and become aware of their emotional state is an important component of our knowledge and ability to reach them. It will help us not only to determine what questions to ask others to help us identify their needs, it can also bring about an awareness of own emotional reflexes and filters so that we can ensure they don't get in the way.

 

Some of things Lance and Beth discuss include:

  • What is Emotional Intelligence?
  • Why is your EI more important in leadership than your IQ?
  • How do emotions motivate behavior?
  • Why Self Awareness is the cornerstone of EI.
  • Why trust and vulnerability are key.
  • How do guilt and shame contribute to Self-Awareness?

We hope you find this session enlightening and helpful, and we encourage you to subscribe to this podcast so that you don't miss new episodes!

Questions or suggestions for podcast topics? Email us! Realforlife@reallifeministries.com

 

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What is Emotional Intelligence?

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Leading with Emotional Intelligence - with Beth Keop

 


How Do You Make Time For Discipleship? Ep. #005

How Do You Make Time For Discipleship? Ep. #005

February 13, 2019

 Real Discipleship  -  For Real People -  In Real Life

Jim Putman and Lance Wigton discuss finding, or making, time in your life for discipleship. How much time will it really take to disciple someone? What things should come first in our lives according to God's view? What are some things we could/should move to the back burner? Listen to Jim and Lance discuss these issues and more!   

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